February 13,1997

Guidelines for Supervised Visits:

1. No gifts or cards without prior approval from Nancy [the mother's counselor]

2. No touching outside of hugs and always by checking with Jimmy [son] if he is OK with a hug.

3. Supervision will be at Nancy's office , gradually moving out into actives in the community.

4. Jimmy may leave a session at any point he so desires.

5. Visits will be 30-45 minutes to start with.

6. [redacted][The mother] will focus on developing good listening skills with Jimmy.

7. [redacted][The mother] will not be permitted to be with Jimmy alone at any time , this includes The waiting room .

8. No whispering or secrets will be permitted.

9. Limited amounts of endearing conversation will be permitted such as " Jimmy do you Love and miss mommie."

10. Nancy has the right to excuse [redacted][the mother] from a therapy session any time she feels Jimmy is becoming overwhelmed.

11. [redacted][The mother] will only be able to have visitation with Jimmy on the same weeks that she is scheduled for an individual therapy session with Nancy.

12. Focus of initial session will be on developing good mother - son relationship with appropriate boundaries.

13. Regular reports will be given [redacted][the father] and [redacted][the child's counselor] on the progress of supervision.

I hereby agree to the above guidelines and limitations of supervised parenting session and understand that if I do not comply I may forfeit my right to visitation:

These requirements were forced on a mother by the court appointed counselor acting in on behalf of the government and the government says, "This mother will communicate with her son in this manor" or she will not see her son . The state has not accused her of mistreating her son. Yet, she is being humiliated, separated and forced to alter her mothering patterns BEFORE she will be permitted visitation.

"This could happen to you if you have a child and live in Washington State."

This visitation plan is written for a mother "Who has raised five children into adulthood and the child in question is ten years old, the youngest child in this family."

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